Psychological Abuse in Relationships

Outside of some of the more obvious abuses and sins against a relationship, such as physical abuse, sexual coercion and infidelity, there are other forms of abuse that may not be so obvious to some. These include forms of psychological and emotional abuse. It’s not necessarily that people have had poor relationship role models and landed in a relationship similar to the one(s) they grew … [Read more...]

Shame, Sex and Love

Check out this amazing podcast with Alanis Morissette and trauma and recovery expert Pia Mellody from the Meadows. Great discussion about shame and so many other things! Here’s just a sample: “If you take on somebody else’s shame because they are being shameless, you wind up feeling worthless. That’s very, very toxic.… Your own shame feels like embarrassment or humility. It’s not a negative … [Read more...]

HOW DO I SAY NO?

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BOUNDARIES: WHAT, WHY AND HOW?

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Assertiveness

There are many aspects to assertiveness training. First and foremost, assertiveness is not to be confused with aggressiveness. I say that being assertive splits the difference between being passive and being aggressive. Being assertive simply means standing up for yourself, not in a rude, mean or domineering way but, rather, in a calm, direct way. When we are not assertive, we often allow … [Read more...]

Boundaries

Everyone needs boundaries. Boundaries are the limits you set in your life to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Boundaries require assertiveness and the recognition of one's own emotional and psychological limits. Some people confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness and, as a result, don't set the boundaries they need to take care of or even protect themselves. Many people, in fact, … [Read more...]